Open: Conversations for People Considering Open Relationships (PDF)
Stop Living in Fear, Start Loving in Freedom
About 90% of people believe that cheating in a relationship is wrong, and only about 3% believe that it’s not. Yet roughly 50% of people have cheated on their partner, and around 20% do so regularly. This hypocrisy epidemic leads to confusion, pain, and dishonesty in relationships.
Some brave couples explore an open relationship to navigate these challenges, but who can they turn to for advice? Who will be their guide on this delicate and dangerous journey? Open is a set of stories, tools, and conversation starters to help curious committed couples to find the fun and adventure of an open relationship without the fear of pain, betrayal, and deceit.
This is a downloadable eBook in PDF format. The link will be sent to you by email when your order is complete.
Dr. James Whittard is a world leading professor, with 13 years of strict monogamy and 13 years of open relationship experience covering two open marriages. He is a prominent international author and speaker, holding a PhD in social sciences, and has helped thousands of professionals improve their lives. As Dr. Whittard is a globally recognizable public figure, and open relationships are still outside of the diversity and inclusion conversation, his real identity is withheld.
Lexi Sylver ,Media Director for SDC.com; Sex & Lifestyle Relationship Coach, Educator & Author (verified owner) –
Open is a must-read book for any couple who may be curious about how an open relationship can work for them. This book packs a ton of helpful and practical advice and truly paves the way for couples to get started in the open lifestyle while maintaining a healthy relationship at each and every step (and misstep). If you’re considering opening up your relationship, I recommend that you read Open together with your partner as a fantastic introduction to the Lifestyle.
Emma Sayle, Founder & CEO, Killing Kittens Ltd (verified owner) –
OPEN is an essential toolkit on your journey of sexual discovery and pleasure. Couples can only push the boundaries if those boundaries are built on solid and firm foundations, where both parties are fully engaged, totally open and 100% in agreement.
J.J.L., Seattle (verified owner) –
Where was this book 20 years ago?? My wife and I are in our early 50’s, married for 31 years, and we just started to explore sex outside of our marriage for the first time. We both knew we wanted to spice things up, but we didn’t know where to start. Open gave us a starting place for figuring things out. And it was super interesting to read. Great stories!
H.T., New York (verified owner) –
This book is sooooo practical. It’s a good read, and easy, but what I really like about it is that there are so many cool tips and tricks that are helping my boyfriend and I figure out how we want our relationship to work. For example, I love the idea that I’m not defending my own boundaries, I’m defending his. That helps me a lot. We’re both in a pace now where we can explore our sexuality within an expanded frame, and it’s made our own sexual relationship a lot hotter too.
J.G.R., Manchester (verified owner) –
OPEN saved my marriage! I was thinking about leaving my husband of 14 years because our sex life had dried up. We were like roommates, and what I really wanted was to feel desired again. I didn’t want to cheat, so I read OPEN and then started the conversation with my husband. At first he was hesitant, but after he also read this book, he agreed to explore. We’ve been open for about 3 months now, and still navigating some awkward conversations, but it’s an adventure we’re on together.
Harry T., London (verified owner) –
We bought and read six other books on open marriages but none of them gave us an actual guide on how to go about it. This book gave a step by step guide on what we should be talking about BEFORE embarking on an open marriage. We are so grateful for what this book gave us. A definite must read!
Andrea J., Los Angeles, USA (verified owner) –
I had been in an open marriage for a year when I stumbled upon this book. My relationship with my husband was going downhill and I was looking for ways to fix it. We were missing vital steps, mostly what Dr James calls pain and pleasure. Now we understand this distinction we have stopped hurting each other and now we have a much better open relationship.
G. J., London, UK (verified owner) –
I can’t believe my partner and I were just winging it. How silly we were. This book has totally changed the way we communicate within our open relationship. The best thing we have implemented after reading this is our agreement. We now are clear on our expectations of each other.
Sarah B., London, UK (verified owner) –
Hands down best book on open relationships I have read. And I love Dr Whittard’s witty humour. Makes an easy read!